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Struggling to Win

Struggling to Win

STRUGGLE. It’s the opposite of moving swiftly and gracefully toward success.

make forceful or violent efforts to get free of restraint or constriction.”

Client: “Dr. Tricia—I should have figured this out by now. I own a successful company. I’m smart. Why is it so hard? I feel like something is wrong with me.”

Me: “Well, you could be mediocre. Then you wouldn’t be so frustrated. No one struggles when s/he is sitting on the couch. “

The very concept of high achievement pushes against all things that are normal, accessible and part of the status quo. Struggle is inherent, yet it feels like an indication of failure.  And as much as I believe and live everything I teach, I hate struggle as much as anyone else.

Unless…., maybe I can see it from a positive perspective? To get free of restraint or constriction. You see, my number one value is freedom. I feel like I should say, “friends, love, excellence, God, learning, honesty”…..but all of my choices link to freedom.

I want the freedom to create my own life. To let go of what doesn’t work and pursue what does. To sculpt learning, experience, relationships and dreams. I want the freedom to CHOOSE what I will not do, rather than to passively yield to stagnation because of fear, self-doubt or lack of effort. I want to be an active participant in my own life, and that means constantly assessing what I am allowing to happen versus what I want to happen, what I “will” to happen, and what I work toward with relentless tenacity. Essentially, everything I want requires pushing uphill.

Trudging uphill is not sexy. It does not make me want to  sprint out of bed and break into song. Rather, I’d prefer to pull the covers over my head, and then throw intermittent tantrums throughout the day,

I want freedom.

What if struggle is the very thing that can bring you joy? What if struggle is an indicator that everything is exactly as it should be?

Engage. Struggle. Free yourself. Repeat.








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